As a mum to a teenager, I do get asked quite a few ‘why’ questions that do not always have an easy answer. My son has come into an age now where he sees and then questions why some of his friends having a different moral compass to what we have demonstrated at home and have taught him.
The other day on the drive to school, I was asked one of those ‘why’ questions and it was one of those questions that could not be answered quickly. Before I formulate an answer, I always try and get an idea of where his mind is at with regard to the topic in question to better address the doubt that stirred the question in the first place.
Saving oneself for marriage was the topic of the “why question” this time.
Since we did not have much time on the drive, I told him we would speak about it at home in the evening. I was glad because it gave me time to think about it and pray for wisdom in answering him.
As I was doing this, I was reminded of the scripture verses in 1 Corinthians 6:12.
1 Corinthians 6:12 “Everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me but I will not be mastered by anything”
There are certain things that are expressly forbidden in God’s word, and some things that do not have a clear cut ‘NO’ in the bible.
Living in a culture where what the ‘in thing’ to do is far removed from that which is right in God’s eyes can possibly result in us having cultural blind spots. Cultural blind spots are things that are so infiltrated into society, which would have been frowned upon in the past, but now are embraced as normal practice and accepted. The normality and acceptance make it harder for those who follow their faith to hold fast to certain principles of godly living.
The freedom that we experience in Christ from living a life following legalistic rules does not mean we can justify behaviour or activities that is not in accordance with godly living. Our freedom as believers is still measured by the spiritual benefit of our choices.
Do our choices grieve the Holy Spirit?
Do our choices adversely affect our relationship with God?
The Corinthians were saying that “all things are lawful “and excusing their sexual sin.
1 Corinthians 6:20 says “you were bought at a price, therefor honour God with your body.” Yes, we are to be an instrument for glorifying Christ.
Romans 12: 1 says “We are to offer our bodies as living sacrifices- holy and pleasing to God.”
In Christ, we have freedom, we have been freed from the law, freed from the penalty of sin, freed from being slaves to sin. But that freedom is not a licence to excuse any sin.
Romans 6: 1-2 “Shall we continue sinning so that grace abounds, By no means!”
A believer’s freedom can be measured by two things
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Is it beneficial?
Beneficial- does it build your faith and the faith of others.
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Will it enslave?
We can become a slave to those actions in which we so ‘freely’ indulge. We are not to live and be led by a leash of our sinful desires.
Paul points out that liberty has limitations. He emphasises that sexual immorality is at odds with the Christian life, and no amount of “Christian liberty” can excuse it.
Even if all things were lawful, not everything should be done, and nothing should be allowed to enslave us as a sinful habit.
Biblical truths can be a great source of comfort or conviction.
Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19). Your body is where the spirit not only lives, but is worshipped, revered and honoured. Is there any greater motivation to holiness?
I do not intend to blame or criticise those who choose to take a different path. It is YOUR CHOICE, what you do with your body matters to God and if what matters to God matters to you, then CHOOSE TO
HONOUR HIM, and never be pressured into doing things because of what your peers do or say.
Let’s take a moment and think, are there any habits that we have developed that do not please the Lord?
Is there any area in your life which are ruled by your desires?
Are there any cultural norms, although sinful, that we have embraced?
We are made for God and belong to Him, let us continue to strive to live a life pleasing to our Heavenly father, giving Him glory in all that we do.
God desires to be recognisable in us in all we do. A life that glorifies God is a life that reveals God.
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Thank you for stopping by and reading. It is wonderful that you are digging into God’s word and eager to learn more about Him. Praise God for that.
Esther- The book of Esther is one of only two books in the Hebrew Bible that never mention God (the other is the Song of Songs). The absence of God’s name does not mean that God was absent. Rather, we see Him working behind the scenes, with the rescue of the Jews and the destruction of their enemies as evidence of divine providence.
OT/NT-“Don’t misunderstand why I have come. I did not come to abolish the law of Moses or the writings of the prophets. No, I came to accomplish their purpose. I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not even the smallest detail of God’s law will disappear until its purpose is achieved. So if you ignore the least commandment and teach others to do the same, you will be called the least in the Kingdom of Heaven. But anyone who obeys God’s laws and teaches them will be called great in the Kingdom of Heaven. But I warn you—unless your righteousness is better than the righteousness of the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven!” — MATTHEW 5:17-20
Jesus came to fulfil the law.
You and I today are able to live with a greater understanding than the OT saints in that we are looking back on the cross and are thus better able to understand the OT prophecies and pictures of Christ.
Hope this helps.
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I believe that the Bible is God’s Word to us, His revelation. All scripture is God breathed and we should cherish it, study it, obey it, and fully trust it. The Bible is the Word of God, and to dismiss it is to dismiss God Himself.
“The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned” (1 Corinthians 2:14). In the end, only the Spirit of God can help a person see past the ‘foolishness’ of the gospel to the simple, powerful, life-changing truth of what God has done for us.
Only God can make one truly believe.
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Thankyou for your wishes. I do not mean to debase anothers choice of belief but shared mine and substantiated that with scripture. It is each persons choice and it is each persons journey. I wish you well too.
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Great post. Hope the talk with your son goes well.
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Thankyou. As a mum, you do what needs to be done and pray that God works in your child’s heart and draws then close to Him.
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Yep! Have you read the book, Rethinking Sexuality by Juli Slattery? I want to read that one. I think it will help me with those types of conversations with my kids.
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Thankyou for that suggestion, I have not read it but will definitely do. 😊
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It was wise when you chose to spend more time in prayer before answering your son. You also show that you listen well to your son, and that is a gift we give to our children , even as they speak their earliest words. When children know that we really listen to then, we develop healthy life-long relationships with them.
God bless you, and your son.
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Thankyou so much for your kind words ❤️. Indeed, we need to take the time to listen to them otherwise they will turn elsewhere to be heard and get their answers.
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So very true. We train our children to listen to us when we listen carefully to them. 🤗
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very deep
i think
it is like this
a slave to sin is no way to win
you go to heaven alone
as your were born
and so too will die!
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Indeed, a slave to sin is no way to win, I like that. Thankyou for stopping by and reading 🙂.
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A Huge Amen. TY
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😊❤️
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“Before I formulate an answer, I always try and get an idea of where his mind is at with regard to the topic in question.” That’s WISDOM.
On a lighter note, I’m reminded of the small child who asked her mother, “Mommy, what’s sex?” The mother, red-faced, explained the best she could, but the child looked more confused than ever. Holding up a form for school, she said, “I still don’t know how to fill this in…”
The form said “Name: ______ Sex: _____”)
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Haha, yep sometimes kids ask simple questions 😊
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Very good and thought provoking post! Thanks for sharing!
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Thankyou 😊🙏🏼
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Loved the whole post and specially Corinthians 6:12❤️
God’s love for us is unconditional. When we make mistakes and suffer He grieves for us.
There are no rights and wrongs in this world of duality – only cause and effect ….
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So true. Thankyou for stopping by and reading 😊
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Pleasure
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Good post! Amen
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Thankyou 😊
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I love the verse Romans 12:1.
Truly, our choices must conform to standards of godly living.
Thank you 🙏
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Indeed they should. God bless ❤️😊
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Great post. Your son has a very wise and loving mom.
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Thankyou 😊
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What a blessing this was! I love how you broke it all down to the point even a new Christian could follow and understand.
I pray the conversation with your son was positive, informative and real.
God bless,
Stu
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Thankyou so much. The conversation with my son went quite well. I was prepared to defend godly living and convince him etc etc. But he was like yeah I can see what you are saying and I understand.
But I do know that this is something that I have to keep praying about as he grows and becomes his own person and I pray that he would find his identity in Christ.
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I’m so glad it well and that he understood. Yes, most definitely stay in prayer for him! The pressures of being a teen now as pposed to when I was growing up is nothing is taboo. Scary times.
I can tell from your post and your comment that you will continue to give Godly counsel!
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So true about the pressures of being a teen in this day.
Thankyou again 😊
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Good insights into the subject.
Another way of expressing the spirit of the conflict is:
“Just because I can does not mean I should”.
Or as one lady said in Bible School:
“Not never, just not now”.
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Haha I like that 🙂. Thanks for stopping by and reading.
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Very true. I was recently tempted to get into sexual sin, but thankfully came to my senses just in time!
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Glad to hear that temptation did not win.
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In that case.
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“The normality and acceptance make it harder for those who follow their faith to hold fast to certain principles of godly living.” I am soon to blog about my experience with this
This post was timely even though I’m seeing it months later
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I look forward to reading what you share about this.
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Very true.
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